Welcome to Sensibly Solo, a small space on the Interwebz where I can share the sensible tips, tricks, and experiences that make my life fulfilling and rad as a woman living solo!
Solo women, like me, are the happy spinsters, bachelorettes, divorcees, and widows who want to eat well, take vacations, plan for retirement, and carve out their own little dreams in a world that is centered on couples and the “traditional” family.
Solo life is often exactly as our married or partnered counterparts think it is: freeing and fun. I mean, who wouldn’t want the power to decide all the details of one’s life without having to compromise much?
But the reality is this: living solo can also be daunting. It can feel lonely, overwhelming, and — on some days — impossible. I should know, I’ve been living a pretty solo life for the last 15 years!
Hi, I’m Christina, a 40-something year old lady living in Southern California. I became a widow in my late 20s and then raised my only child (18+ now!) in a multi-generational home while putting myself through college. And while I am no longer a grieving widow, it took me an embarrassingly long time to really embrace and enjoy my longterm status as a “single female.”
Maybe you can’t relate, but I’d see my friends and family members all settled in with their spouses or longterm partners and think, “wow, I’ll never be able to live a full life like that without a husband or longterm boyfriend.” I spent literally years feeling inadequate, depressed, anxious, and lonely whenever I thought too hard about my extended periods of singleness.
Fortunately, as I’ve gotten older, my stretches without a serious boyfriend grew longer and more enjoyable, and I started to see how great life could be if I combined the freedom my solo life offers me with the confidence to do it all on my own.
I hope my blog will inspire the solo people from all walks of life to embrace their solo life and live it well!